This is a post that isn’t easy for me to write. If you read my post about living with an invisible illness, you know how far people with chronic illnesses go to hide what is going on with us.

Well, if we’re hiding it, we aren’t having a productive conversation. We aren’t helping increase awareness. We aren’t making it easy for people in our lives to understand.

So today I’m going to get pretty vulnerable and bear my illness to you. I’m going to go through what a typical day looks like for me. It’s not like this every day- sometimes it’s way better, and sometimes it’s way worse. But for all you people out there who have loved ones with chronic illnesses, maybe this will help you understand. Only about 5 people in my life have seen what my actual typical day looks like, so this isn’t easy.

The illness I have is called Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Having POTS means that your autonomic nervous system doesn’t function correctly, especially when you are standing. If you want to read more about it, here is some info. I’m not going to get into the nitty gritty, but to help you understand this article more, some of my symptoms include: racing heart rate and low blood pressure when standing, difficulty changing positions quickly, nausea, difficulty with digestion, migraines, dizziness, chronic fatigue, and plenty of others.

I’m going to talk about spoons in this post. Spoons are representative of energy for people with chronic illnesses. It’s based on the Spoon Theory, which is one of the most brilliant pieces of writing ever about chronic illnesses. So make sure to read it, it is worth your time.

So here goes the day….

9:00 Am- Wake Up. Spoons: 15

No alarm. Disrupting my natural sleeping and waking cycles is a surefire way to set off a migraine. I open my eyes and adjust to the light. I open my phone and check emails and messages. I then start the process of standing up, because I need to get to the bathroom STAT. Apparently the three times I peed in the middle of the night were not enough, so I gotta go.

But standing up isn’t simple for me, especially after laying for so long. I mentally prepare myself to prop myself up a bit. Then I move into a sitting position, slowly. I sit for a few seconds, maybe a minute, before I stand up. When I stand my head pounds a little, typically, and my vision goes a little blurry. But I push through it and walk to the bathroom. Success! I brush my teeth and then head back to bed.

9:30 AM- Spoons: 14

Surprised that standing up to go to the bathroom loses me a spoon? I’m not. I’m used to it.

I prop myself up in bed and start checking my blog and social media. I respond to comments. I look over my editorial calendar for the week. I go on pinterest and browse a little for some inspiration.

I’m starting to get hungry. Or maybe just nauseous. It’s sometimes hard to tell. I walk the 30 or so steps to the kitchen to pick out some food. If I’m feeling pretty good I’ll make eggs, but today I’m feeling like I can’t stand for long so I eat some granola and yogurt- quick and easy. Sometimes just walking to the kitchen makes me so nauseous that I lose my appetite. It’s easier for me to eat with my legs up so I often eat sitting in bed.

I keep working on my blog, maybe edit some pictures or a post.

10:30 AM- Spoons: 13

Although I’ve been managing pretty well so far, the headache that was creeping behind my eyebrows is getting worse. I’m so used to having a headache that I often don’t notice it at first. When I start getting really irritable and feeling like simple tasks are really difficult, I realize how much pain I’m actually in.

So now it’s time to weigh my decision. Should I take medication? The earlier I take it the more it helps. But I don’t like to take it if I can avoid it, so I might wait a little longer to decide if it’s really here to stay. Do I give myself a toradol shot, take a toradol pill, or take a naproxen? If I take the naproxen and the headache gets worse, it’s always a bad idea because you can only take it every 12 hours. The toradol usually upsets my stomach. I can only give myself a shot 4 times a week, so is this migraine really bad enough that I can use up one of those valuable times?

I decide to put off deciding a little longer. I am having trouble concentrating through the pain so I look for something to watch on netflix to distract me and hope that it gets a little better.

11:00 AM- Spoons: 11

I am frustrated with my migraine and I want to know what’s causing it. I didn’t overdo it yesterday did I? Or did I eat something I shouldn’t have? Have I not been drinking enough water? I check my weather app and realize the pressure is a little on the low side today. So there’s my answer.

Deciding to wait to take the medication has cost me an extra spoon. I opt for a toradol pill and take it with some water. Sometimes I need a snack because you can’t take it on an empty stomach.

12:00 PM- Spoons: 9

The migraine is really taking it out of me. I’m trying to work but having a lot of difficulty. I took some pictures of a project I’m working on for a blog post, but just maneuvering the camera was pretty exhausting.

I look in the fridge for some leftovers. There aren’t any. I don’t have a lot of energy to make something that requires a lot of work, so I make some pasta with pesto. I know I should be eating more protein.

By the time I’m done eating the medicine is helping a little more.

1:00 PM- Spoons: 7

Making the pasta and working on my blog have been pretty exhausting. I think it’s about time for my nap. I don’t nap every single day, but I probably nap about 4-5 times a week.

2:30 PM- Spoons: 8

I have a few etsy orders to make. The nap was a little refreshing so I decide that I will make them now. I mix up the ingredients and take breaks sitting while monitoring the melting and stirring. I usually listen to a podcast while I work.

I always have fun making products and I’m excited to see them come together. Once the orders are done I’m pretty oily and messy. Taking a shower will cost too many spoons so I just wash up and change into yoga pants, a t shirt, and a zip up hoodie. Pretty much my daily uniform, plus or minus pajama pants.

I also don’t think I have enough spoons to put all the packaging and shipping together for the orders, so I decide I will do that tomorrow.

3:30 PM- Spoons: 6

I head back to bed with my laptop and start editing the pictures from earlier. I find it easier to edit pictures first and write the blog post second most of the time. Standing up to work on the orders made me pretty dizzy, so I have to take breaks from editing the pictures to let myself settle a little. Sometimes I put on my glasses hoping they will help with the dizziness, but they never do.

So I push through it like usual and try to get as much done as I can.

4:30 PM- Spoons: 5

Lars and I both really like it when I have dinner ready when he comes home from work. It means I will have at least one good meal that day and neither of us has to wait until we are hangry to eat. Don’t worry, Lars alway does the dishes.

Since I haven’t had really healthy meals today I decide that I should make dinner. Dinner is usually some sort of poultry and vegetables, and usually a salad as well. I also really love making things in my slow cooker. I make some chicken and sweet potatoes, a yummy classic and super easy to make. Although the meal is easy, it still takes a lot out of me.

5:30 PM- Spoons: 3

Lars comes home from work and we eat dinner. We don’t have any plans tonight so we talk about whether we should do some chores and errands, watch a movie, maybe go out and do something. We usually decide to stay in because by the time he comes home I’m usually pretty low on spoons.

So we decide to watch a movie, but it’s one I’ve already seen before so I decide to work on my blog post while we watch.

6:30 PM- Spoons: 1

My medicine is starting to wear off and the migraine is coming back. After eating and cooking my body is feeling pretty worn out. I ate sitting up at the table, which costs another spoon (as opposed to eating reclining on the couch or bed). I really don’t want to take more medication, but I decide to because I’m almost out of spoons and pushing through the pain is kind of out of the question at this point.

7:00 PM- Spoons: 1

We watch the movie in bed so I can be most comfortable. (but one of these days we will get a comfortable couch so I like hanging out in the living room more).

Watching the movie with a migraine and working on the blog post cost me another spoon, so I’m out now.

8:30 PM- Spoons: 0

The movie is over and it’s time to wake Falafel (our pet hedgehog). Even though I’m out of spoons I need to be a good hedge-mom so I know I have to play with her.

I coax her out of her tshirt and give her a towel to stand on. Lars and I play with her and feed her treats but she is feeling like a grouch and trying hard to hide. So we decide to let her play in her maze, which is her favorite thing.

We sit around and talk for a while, checking on Falafel, who has fallen asleep in the maze.

9:30 PM- Spoons: -1

I bet you didn’t know spoons could get negative. What that means is that I’m borrowing off of tomorrow’s spoons. I don’t know how many I’ll have tomorrow. 15, like today, is pretty average, but playing with Falafel pushed me over the edge. I decided it was worth it, and I hope I don’t regret it tomorrow. I weighed the options and since we have leftovers from dinner I can probably get away with not making dinner tomorrow, so I can save on those spoons. Or maybe I will put off packaging the etsy orders another day. I’ll find the spoon savings somewhere.

10:00 PM- Spoons: -2

I get ready for bed and change into pajamas. Brushing my teeth when I’m already so low on spoons cost me another one. Spoons are relative, so the less you have, the more it takes to do simple activities.

Lars and I get into bed and talk for a while. I fall asleep somewhere between 10:30 and 11.

And then it will be tomorrow.

The dangerous thing is when you continually borrow the next days spoons. Today, I borrowed 2 spoons from tomorrow. But if tomorrow there is a bad storm or who knows what else going on, I may wake up with even less spoons than expected. I’m hoping to get an average amount of spoons (about 15) but I know I already borrowed 2 (bringing me down to 13). But if tomorrow is a bad day, I might only wake up with 9 spoons, and I’ll already have used 2 of those, leaving me with 7. Borrowing spoons is a huge gamble.

People with chronic illnesses are always told to push ourselves. What people don’t realize is that we already are. But you can only borrow off of the next days spoons for so long before the day that you wake up with no spoons at all. Pushing yourself is a balancing game, just like everything else we do. So I push myself trying to be as independent as possible and get stuff done, but there comes a point when pushing yourself is hurting yourself. And it isn’t always easy to find that point.

I don’t mean for this to be a sad article.

I’m actually a very happy person. Some of you may read this and notice how isolated I am. I spend most days at home alone and only see Lars at night. But those are my average days. Lars and I usually see his family once a week and my family once a week. I see my friends 1-2 times a month and Lars’s friends 1-2 times a month. Once in a while we have a busy social weekend and it takes me a few days to recover. I’m not completely isolated. Although, compared to a healthy person, it might really seem like it.

I work really hard on having a positive outlook and I use all different kinds of strategies. And it works for me.

I am happy with my life. It may not be what I imagined when I was younger, or what most people think of as a happy and productive life. But for me, I can find value in small things. Like days when I have enough spoons to leave the house and go for a walk. Or when Falafel does something particularly cute. Or being lucky enough to have found the love of my life and have such a great support system.

So don’t feel sorry for me. I am really happy. What I want for you to get out of this article is a better understanding of a day in the life of chronic illness. Living with limitations has certainly taught me to judge others less, and I guess that’s what I’m hoping you will get out of this. Before you judge someone with a chronic illness for not working, think about what their life is like. People who meet me when I’m out and about on a good day don’t know that I spend about 80% of most days in bed. They don’t know how hard my body is working to stand and talk to them.

So have compassion for the people in your life, because you don’t know what they’re dealing with. Whether it’s a chronic illness (physical or mental), a family problem, a traumatic experience, or anything else, you have no idea what they are really going through. They probably don’t know what you are going through either! We can all stand to employ a little more empathy in our lives.

Thanks for reading! If you liked this post, you should also check out 15 Things Not to Say to Someone With a Chronic Illness

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One of the things that I’ve learned in my life is that everyone has a struggle you wouldn’t know about from meeting them. Every person is going through their day, battling something that no one else knows about. And that is their secret identity.

I’ve talked on this blog several times about my own “secret identity,” or my struggle with the chronic illness Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Well, I thought it would be good to showcase other awesome people with their own struggles. After all, everyone’s struggles are equally valid, important, and interesting to learn about. So I’m starting a new series called Secret Identity.

My goal with this series is to remind people of a few things. First, don’t be quick to judge. You don’t know what someone has been through or is currently dealing with. Second, be empathetic, because we are all human beings. Third, you never know everything. There is more than meets the eye. And fourth, you aren’t alone. Everyone else struggles too.

So, this is my first secret identity post. I’m here to tell you the story of Sammie Virella.

Mouse over to see Sammie’s Secret Identity

To the outside world, Sammie Virella is an active college student. In between biology classes she is an active member of the marching band (or Big Red Marching Machine, as they call it) at Illinois State University. She is an avid reader and fan of young adult fantasy and was into every popular series before you had ever heard of it. So, if she recommends a book to you, it will probably be a movie in about 2 years. You may have noticed that Sammie does miss a bit more class than the average student. She is one of the silliest and most outgoing people you could ever meet, so you probably notice when she’s gone.

What most people don’t know is that Sammie suffers from a myriad of chronic health problems. She has a rare genetic heart condition, chronic migraines, and fibromyalgia, just to name a few. She has gone through countless surgeries including getting her gallbladder removed, a heart ablation, getting her tonsils out (TWICE- they grew back!), and a few others. She is in and out of school, often spending time in the hospital or at home to be closer to her doctors.

If you saw Sammie on the street, you would probably think she is like any other college student, overworked and sleep deprived. While that may be true, the dark circles under her eyes don’t even begin to tell the story of her struggle.

Sammie started getting migraines at the age of 6. As a baby, she already had some issues with her nervous system, and would spontaneously forget to breathe. As a teenager she suffered from numerous migraines, concussions, digestive issues, heart issues- you name it, she’s lived through it. Through all her health issues and roads to diagnoses, she maintained a mostly normal and active school and social life.

Sammie played trombone in band in high school, which wasn’t easy for her. Despite her love of music, the loud instruments during practice further exacerbated her migraines. She pushed through it. She is an incredible athlete, having lead her high school water polo team to the state championships year after year. Waking up early to make it to 5am practices was particularly difficult for her because her pain is worst in the morning. She pushed through it. She sat through entire days of classes even with migraine-induced blurry vision struggling to pay attention. She pushed through it.

Sammie can’t remember what it feels like not to be in pain. She is ALWAYS pushing through the pain to accomplish everything from small daily tasks like brushing her teeth to bigger activities like hours long biology study sessions.

All this takes a toll on your body and mind. Sammie has struggled with depression all throughout college. Missing out on her favorite things has been more than difficult, it has left a permanent mark. Sammie can no longer play water polo because of the risk of head injuries, and she has recently taken a step back from college marching band to focus on her studies. These are her passions; they help her keep going. Missing them feels like missing a part of herself.

Sammie is incredibly strong. She does everything she can while pushing through pain and depression. Despite all she has been through, she does her best to stay hopeful and optimistic. And no matter how bad she feels she is always the first to try to cheer up a friend or look out for others.

Sammie is bright, brilliant, and a wonderful person with a big heart. In her own words, she describes the takeaway from her struggle:

Not everyone has medical issues, but everyone has something. Whether it be family issues, friend issues, failing a class, not getting your dream job, etc., everyone has an issue that they are fighting with everyday. Nobody’s perfect. We all have struggle that we have to get through everyday.

I couldn’t have put it better myself.

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